Successful Marriage

Read: 1 Corinthians 13

Last week I finished up the various Christ-like characteristics that were mentioned in Colossians. I began to realize how important those things are in our marriages. What about kindness, gentleness, humility, and patience in our marriages? How well are we wearing those?

Another question we should ask ourselves is “How peaceful is our marriage relationship?” Even though we are bound to have disagreements and difficulties that come along, how do we handle those in ways that are healthy and don’t end up sending us down a dangerous path?

I once read about a new widow who was agonizing about what slogan she should have inscribed on her husband’s tombstone. Should it say this, or should it say that? Finally she decided on these two: Rest in Peace – Until we meet again.

I’m not sure if she realized the irony in those two sayings or not, but our marriages should be a place where peace reigns. If we follow the indispensable words about love in 1 Corinthians 13 we should be able to live in that kind of peace, knowing that even through disagreements or frustrations our love for our spouse will trump them all.

Ruth Graham once said, “If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.” I have also heard it said, “If two people agree on everything, they double their chances of being wrong.”

I recently read a very good blog on this subject of successful marriages written by Perry Noble. He lists five things that a successful marriage has to have. I would encourage you to read his words. You can read that blog at this link.

Notice that his fifth one is Jesus. If our lives are wrapped up in Jesus instead of ourselves we will be headed in the right direction and our marriages will be successful. Can we say that “Jesus is the Lord of our marriage”? If not, then you have found the place to start!

For those who have lived through a failed marriage, please know that the grace and love of Jesus for you is real. He knows your pain and your heartache and only he can bring healing to those wounds. He will bring you healing if you take it to the foot of his cross. His grace is sufficient!

Make it personal: Talk with your spouse about the five things or so that can make your marriage even more successful. Talking is always a great place to start, but actually putting those things into action will bring peace to your marriage and you will be successful in marriage.

Have a blessed week,
Glen Rhodes, Minister of Discipling and Community Life, Arthur Mennonite Church