“Love and Marriage”

This Weeks Meditation: “Love and Marriage” 
Read: Ephesians 5:21-33 

This passage in Ephesians often gets a lot of attention because of one word. That word is “submit.” It’s a word that is not liked very much in a world that often seeks out self before anything or anyone else. When we think about the covenant of marriage and this scripture passage we realize that this is more about love than it is about power.

Paul is encouraging couples to look out for the other spouse before we fulfill our own desires. Husbands are to love their wives in this way, wives are to love their husbands in this way. If we truly make that our goal then imagine how loving and healthy our marriages can be.

In fact Paul mentions that we are to love each other (spouses) just as Christ loved the church, and then he reminds us that Christ gave himself up for the church. In verse 33 he ends by saying “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Love and respect for each other is a two-way street. I recently read an article by Justin and Trisha Davis who started RefineUs ministries after they went through a victorious battle for their own marriage and family. They shared these helpful tips on how to put the other spouse before yourself as this passage encourages us to do.
1. Your preference is more important than my preference.
2. Your desires more important than my desires.
3. Your wishes more important than my wishes.
4. You being right is more important than me being right.
5. You are more important than me.

They ended that list by saying, “God’s desire is that both people in a marriage make the other person more important than themselves.” That really is what Paul is encouraging us to do in this passage. It’s not always easy when we have the world and our sinful nature telling us to please ourselves, but Christ can help us nurture this attitude if we submit our life to him. His example can inspire us all to put others before ourselves, especially our spouse.

Make it personal: What are some ways that you can practice this in your marriage this week? Sometimes it is the little things that communicate this love just as much as the big things. Try doing them both (Big and small) but be sure to start somewhere.

Have a blessed week,
Glen Rhodes, Minister of Discipling and Community Life
Arthur Mennonite Church